Suddenly the month when we can put on weight without feeling guilty is here with us. I tried to answer some of the questions I received but as you all know, no one takes me seriously. Not even myself.😉
How was/is your experience of seeing someone in church? Pros and cons
Seeing someone in church is interesting. Those men know how to wear suits. And ties. And sharpshooters. And the way they quote verses, I think it is kind of sexy. Well, in its own way. I mean, isn’t it wonderful to have a man who prays with you and for you?
A man who holds God with so much regard? Frankly, it was fun to have my guy in the same choir with me. And true to your thoughts, I am not singer material. I just fill the line so that when God is marking the register I also get the pleasure of shouting ‘present, teacher.’ I am told Elijah loves to hear the sound of my voice from up there.
As I was saying, it used to be thrilling singing with my mister man in the same choir. You know, that awe-filled moment when he is hitting all the right notes and keys in a song and you are there feeling pleased with yourself and silently thumping your chest at how you hit jackpot by choosing him. Yeah? Or even if he is not that much of a talented singer, at least you can see he is trying. Si that counts? Let me not hear anyone saying that I was in the choir for all the wrong reasons.
The part of those relationships that I might not have enjoyed was that of being compared to specific people in church in terms of the lengths of my skirts or shirts or choice of hairstyle. Neither did I enjoy the part where people assume that being extroverted is a sin. Ati oh, ‘women should be shy and reserved.’ ‘you are not submissive’ Smh. Can you please feel free to move to the next bench if you are not okay with my loud mouth. Ala! However, I do have friends in church who treat their girlfriends/ boyfriends right and that tells us one thing: there are still good men and women in church.
How has life been after graduation?
You guys are so evil. Why are you not asking if my leg recovered after I twisted my leg on 3-inch heels trying to impress my village?
Life has been pretty great!
Job-wise. My first rejection stung like something I did not know. I felt like they were sort of breaking up with me before we even got into a relationship. Like they were telling I am not good enough, but in a polite way. (I even think I cried a bit. But don’t tell my mother because she will be sad and send me very looong encouraging verses on WhatsApp.) But the rejections that followed were much easier to take. I still do not know which feels worse: receiving regrets from a job you applied for or not receiving feedback at all. What do you guys think?
On a lighter note, after graduating, do any of you guys feel weird bumping into your former course mates accidentally? At some point, do you meet someone and after talking to them you feel like your trains took off at the same time but yours travelled in reverse? Well for me, it is not really about feeling like my life is moving much slower than I’d like for it to. Because I have had my moments.
I just do not know about the rest of the population, do you feel kinda funny/weird when you accidentally bump into someone and they ask if you have gotten a job and then they wear this woyee face once you tell them ‘not yet’. And then after they leave, you start feeling woyee-ish too even if you were having a pretty good day prior to that meeting? I’d love to hear from you guys on this.
Secondly, I have had to let some friendships go. I mean, we are told to try not to burn bridges but whenever the bad outweighs the good, you might have to reconsider. The up side of it is that you get to make new friends.
Lastly, moving out was definitely my best experience. People, I do not have to cook if I do not feel like it lol. God bless my lazy limbs. Paying bills though isn’t my favorite thing.
Your hair has grown. What do you do?
I am a lazy but stubborn natural. Sometimes my hair is kind to me but sometimes it pulls a Judas on me.
Let us start here. My hair was doing great without blow-dry or with minimal blow dry for the past 2 years. And lots of moisturizing. Yet, I was not always able to have it open all the time so protective styling came in handy. But, while at it, you all know how most salonists make snide remarks when you ask them ever so kindly not to blow dry your hair before braiding. Yet when you relent and allow them to hot comb your hair a little, they burn the life and the vitamins out of it without mercy.
3 months ago I blow-dried my hair…and that day Satan was having a bad day in hell. So, he was prowling around earth looking for a weak soul to devour and he found that in me. He walked all over my hair, sowing seeds of destruction. I experienced severe heat damage that da. I ended up cutting off all my hair 2 months later because my hair was shedding at a disturbing rate and the curl pattern refused to return. I think I remained with one inch of hair or so. You can join me for the requiem mass for my fallen hair. I can safely say we are back to square one, but si grass grows all the time? This is the sound of a depressed girl.
My point is: MOISTURISE a lot, avoid heat as much as you can or let it be minimum if you have to do it. And PS helps of course.
What motivates you to write?
I love to write.
It gives me joy, just like chocolate and chicken does. (not relevant but…what is man without a stomach) And, you will be shocked at how much writing, if done in the right way, impacts society. And even when it doesn’t, the humor embedded within it keeps all of us young.
Who is your photographer?
My photographer is Isaac Otieno. He is a wonderful soul and does a great job. I will tag him in this post and his contacts. You can also try Levis Nyabwari of Levi Photography. His work is great too. And their rates will not make your intestines tangle in discomfort.
Are you seeing someone currently?
Tokeni hapa priss.
But, yes I am.
While at that, I understand you guys have a lot of time this December, so in my next blog post, I will list for you some of my favorite blogs that I follow so that you guys have a lot of stuff to keep you entertained this holiday.