My twenties have been exhausting. The uncertainty, the crushing weight of unanticipated responsibility, the loneliness… I wasn’t fully prepared for any of this. Half of the time, I feel like I’m just winging life and hoping for the best outcome life can possibly give. However, I take consolation in the facts that I’m giving life my absolute best and that God’s got me. This drives me to share with you some of the things that have been sustaining me this far.
I finally realize that I’m more than the weight of my pockets. In the past, I have battled the feeling that I have nothing to offer to society if I don’t have a lot of money and it took a lot of learning and unlearning to finally be able to define myself outside the money or job I have at a particular time. Now, don’t get me wrong, money is great, and I pray that you never run out of it. Amen! But it is tedious to live all your life believing that your pockets are all you have of and for yourself. So, make it your goal today to discover your identity outside your money and possessions.
I am also embracing the fact that I do not owe anyone perfection. For a recovering people-pleaser like myself, this one took tears, prayers and deliberate effort to overcome. We grow up being told to be examples to our younger ones, to be everything that no one around us ever was when growing up – perfection. And when we finally realize that we are anything but perfection, our spirit breaks a little. Today, I ask this of you: let yourself drop all the hats you had to wear at every stage of life and just rest. You deserve some it because self-care is not a luxury. It is a necessity.
I’m also learning that 25 is not the ideal age for anything. Realize that you can be anything you want to be at whatever age, and you are doing yourself an injustice by measuring your achievements with the yardstick of other people. I have also discovered the importance of breathing, literally. Often, we get so engulfed in the chase of life and if we are not rushing somewhere or doing something, we feel like we are being sub-par or not aggressive enough. Breaks and adequate rest are important.
Lastly, may you sleep sound tonight. Rid yourself of worry and curl into a ball of sleep. Life looks so much better through the eyes of a well-rested human. When tomorrow morning comes, get up, dress up and hit the road in your quest for happiness. I know you will find it, and in case you miss a stop, don’t you sweat it because that sexy bastard called happiness will catch up with you anyhow.