We ended things on a dour Sunday after several months of depressing discussions, some about my hair and some about other things. The last hair discussion we’d had, almost a week prior, had ended with him giving me a bonus week to reconsider cutting my hair despite my clear response that I wouldn’t. To him, I would be supporting his…
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My twenties have been exhausting. The uncertainty, the crushing weight of unanticipated responsibility, the loneliness… I wasn’t fully prepared for any of this. Half of the time, I feel like I’m just winging life and hoping for the best outcome life can possibly give. However, I take consolation in the facts that I’m giving life my absolute best and that…
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In high school I loved a boy, Luca. I even birthed him three virtual kids: Chaba, Chebe and Kiki and even then, he still looked past me on to a perfect girl. And my teenage heart hemorrhaged for days while my self-esteem kissed floors. Let me take you back a tad. I first met Luca in my third year of…
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Life is not a matter of having good cards, but of playing a poor hand well. When my supervisor first assigned me to teach one of her classes, my first thought was, ‘yass it is finally happening!’ I had wanted to teach since day one and it was finally happening after months. Exciting, right? I, however, was not prepared for…
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Until John, I had always followed the right at crossroads. It was what mother taught me, that the right is right and left is wrong. That men who were not believers were not my ocean to fish in. That such men had their portion of women that God allocated to them in the world and I wasn’t one of those.…
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